Married by our Pastors in church

I kindly ask for assistance, I’ve been with my husband of 9 years. Even though his mom and him from the beginning wanted a wife not girlfriend from me marriage or wedding was just not happening.
From the beginning he proposed and we got to live as husband and wife cause we both did not have a problem with that and have been loyal since however it still was torture after torture, arguments and disagreements all the way.
I sought for counselling including in his church which I was then attending having left mine so that we can have peace and love at home. We got to a point of getting married by the Pastor in 2013 and it was ok still continued as a husband and wife.
In all our years of being together somehow things are not and don’t feel like they should be. I have problems with him on top he adds his mom whom we’ve lived with in our house for 5years now, he also has a big daughter 25 years of age who’s double my size and disrespects me when she comes to my house. And now they arranging that she comes to live here permanent.
Sir all this and more has led to me seeking for divorce because all these years he’s not fixing anything. I’ve come to know and understand with my kids that he wants to be with his family not us and that’s fine now all I want is that he gives me what’s due to me which he refuses and lies about. When I met him he has none of everything he has including his permanent job he now has, as a matter of fact his mom came to ask for a job for him in the government office I was working for that’s where she met me.
The time we were married by our Pastors in church we never signed anything and he had long promised my parents to pay what’s due to him and they had no problem with it even more when I lost my job. When things went worse I asked that we meet with Pastor who married us , after she saw that I ask for divorce and he has no plan to work out his marriage even though he says he wants it then he said we must work out our separation that won’t disadvantage the kids.
He refuses to work out separation claiming that I should take my things and the kids get out if I’m not fine with how he is and how he does things. The Pastor has promised to write the proof of marriage but he later went alone to her after getting advises from people and now I see the Pastor is running away because they not certified to marry couples and if I contest that we could end up in court.
Now Sir all I’m asking is that this man be reasonable because I don’t wanna take Pastors to court cause I respect them. My husband must stop lies and sort this peacefully by sharing what we have and go our separate ways. I’m drained with fighting , since last year October he’s not working on separation but continues to trouble me I’m tired of it.
I don’t want something to deal with myself first but a solution to this issue then when I’m alone in my space I can sort out my life because with all this on my shoulders I have double trouble. I beg you to please help doctor Moosa as you the best spiritual healer in the world.
Thank you.
Kind regards,